
Last Sunday was the 2nd anniversary of my login date (LID). I wrote and rewrote a message for that day, but the right words never came so I didn’t post.
Maybe it was because I’d watched the Olympic opening ceremonies on Friday. All those images of China’s children: the group of kids presenting the Chinese flag, the pretty girl in the red satin dress singing (okay, lip synching to another girl’s voice), and the little boy who survived the earthquake walking with Yao Ming and then sitting on his shoulders for the finale. I think it was all too much for me.
So, what do I have to say now? Two years is a long time. Thirty-three months (November ’05) since I filled in my first piece of paperwork is even longer. Some days waiting isn’t so bad; more time to work on other things. Other days I question why I’m doing this and why I’m still waiting.
Many of the waiting parents I met early on have changed their situations. They switched to the special needs program, pursued domestic adoption, dropped out due to personal circumstances, and some dropped out of Chinese adoption completely.
In the twenty-four months since my LID, 6+ months of referrals have been processed. Half of the login dates before mine have received referrals. The wait time has increased from 14 months to 31 months. Depressing statistics all.
My response? I’m still here. Enjoy the following platitudes:
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Everything happens for a reason.
~ Everything happens in its own time.
~ Let things flow naturally.m