Milestones and man issues

Jude had her 24 month check up right after her birthday and I'm happy to say she is doing great! 21.6 pounds (finally cracked 20lbs!) and 32 inches. She's definitely on the charts for height and weight.

She's a bit behind in her speech development but I think a contributing factor has been the pacifier. It started out as a comfort item for bed and the car and became a little addiction. I'm more diligent about keeping it out of her mouth and she's more willing to go without it. She's adding words daily.

We had Thanksgiving this year out (no one wanted to cook) and Dennis and Brett joined us. I'm happy to say Jude doesn't have any man issues - in fact she is rather taken with Dennis. They played several games of 52 card pickup at dinner.

I will post pictures from her birthday party as soon as I get my PC and iPad to cooperate.

M

Ear infections and Mama

This week was Jude's third (yes, 3rd) ear infection in three months. We were at the doctor's twice this week, including a Saturday morning visit. She will be seeing an ENT next week - tubes are likely.

I'm glad to have an answer of sorts to these repetitive fevers, but dreading the solution. I will say, I dislike all the missed work and draining emotions (on both our parts) just as much though.

On the interesting news side, I've officially become 'Mama' to Jude. Crying at the doctor's office and calling from the bedroom, she now cries for Mama. sigh

Today was a good day (knock on wood)

I may be a bit early with my proclamation as it's only 6:30pm.

However, today:

- there were no meltdowns by any member of the house,
- Jude came home from daycare mess free (ish),
- lunch is made for tomorrow,
- dinner has been served, eaten without fuss, and cleaned up,
- Jude's bag is packed for tomorrow,
- the cat used the new litterbox (don't ask),
- its T minus 30 to bath and bed,
- and I've had 6 whole nights of real sleep in a row.

Ahhhhhhh!

For reading my whine-fest without rolling your eyes you get this fab new shot of "Jude bug".

M

Progress Report

This month we will have our 6 month post placement review for the adoption agency. Lots to report - walking, (some) talking, daycare, and health. Jude has really taken to daycare, so much so that she's picked up nearly every illness that is common to the daycare crowd. Pink eye, strep, thrush, HFM - yuck. And yes, I've gotten to try out quite a few as well.

I've told Jude she has to make it through the entire month of August without getting sick. It's day 11 and so far so good. We've had two whole weekends without one or both of us down with something. Quite nice.

There's been swimming, the Irish Festival, and today we went to a single parent appreciation day held by a local church. Jude got to play while I had a mini massage, health screening, pedicure, and then they washed our car! So nice!

I love Fall so there are many events planned for the coming months. Next up - christening!

The 'Mine' monster

Jude has learned the dreaded word 'mine' and she is getting lots of practice using it.

We went to the super store yesterday and I had to pull out some bribe crackers. She let out a wicked little 'heh heh' , pronounced them 'Mine', and then looked around to make sure everyone understood.

It's been noted by her teachers at daycare that she doesn't share toys (or the teacher) that well. Hey, she's a work in progress!

Sundays with Jude

I don't know what it is with Sundays. It seems like she has a play or development spurt every Sunday.

Two weeks ago she suddenly became obsessed with her big Lego-like blocks. She built all day long, making careful color and size coordinated structures.

Last Sunday it was a day with her dolly. She spent the morning giving the doll a bath, rocking her, and putting her to bed. She then insisted on taking the doll to church for more of the same. And she sat in the pew like an adult, instead of sitting Indian style on the seat.

Today it's all about the blocks wagon, which has sat in the living room untouched for months. She's spent the last 2 hours pushing and pulling said wagon around and around the house.

Wish I knew what prompts it; I could bottle it and make a fortune.

1 = 2 of everything

There are some things the other parents neglect to tell you before you become one yourself.  Not out of spite but out of pure 'we just do we don't think about it'-ness.

For example, they don't think to tell you that for just one child you will be required to have two (and some times three or more) of everything.   One set of diapering supplies for downstairs and one for upstairs.  Plus another for the diaper bag, and maybe a fourth for the car.  Multiple tubes of every cream (ezcema lotion, itch cream).  A set of sun supplies (towel, suit, sunblock, hat, glasses) for home and one set for day care.

And don't get me started on the pacifiers.  At least the makers of baby pain relievers package the stuff in twos.  Saved me one trip to the store.  One.  


And for my family and friends - a bit of financial advice.  If I were you, I'd buy stock on a certain store with a bulls-eye logo.  I give them at least half my paycheck every week.  Sixteen + more years before she's off on her own.  I will be keeping that company in business.


Now for Jude's 4th of July picture.  We didn't do much, and she was in bed before the fireworks.  Then again, so was I.

Beach Baby, meet water

Continuing our Memorial Day tales, it was too hot on Monday to catch the tail end of the Asian festival. We spent so time with friends at the Easton play fountain.

Jude enjoyed the water and showed no fear of the spraying fountains. I got soaked myself.

Visiting the aquarium

It's Memorial Day weekend - hot, muggy, bad air. Ah summer in Ohio!

I'm still having breathing problems (I don't want to hear it!) so we're delaying the Asian festival until Monday.

I opted for the Newport aquarium instead for today's activity. Yes it was a bit busy, but Jude liked it.

Her favorite by far were the the jellyfish. She'd have been happy to spend the whole day watching them.

We came home to a quick bath and then she crashed. I'm not far behind.

A first and a last

Today was my first Mother's Day!

I haven't celebrated this day for 10 years, since my own mom passed away in late 2001. It was wonderful to hear from so many people wishing us the best.

Jude made it through a whole church service today too - a little Mother's Day miracle.

Now to the last. Today was my last day of FMLA. I go back to work tomorrow. Jude begins full time day care as well.

Fingers crossed for us both!

Animal crackers

I've discovered you cannot share a bowl of animal crackers with Jude.

She bites the head or leg off of a cracker then puts it back with the rest.

Nothing so pleasant as grabbing a soggy, pre-gnawed nugget out of the bowl. Nummy num!

M

Verticality and Mobility

Yesterday was Vertical Day. Jude spent most of the day standing and toddling.

 She has been able to stand and get up and down, as well as walk with assistance.  She walks around furniture and holds your hand. She takes three or four steps on her own. I've been working on encouraging her to walk, as she has to be walking for her day care center.

Sunday she took off on her own, stepping out over and over to walk about. She figured out how to ride her push horse and how to push her shopping cart. I moved the portable gate blocking off the living room too (that was there to keep the dogs away from the baby).  She rarely sat down all day.

Today was Mobility Day.  Back to the shopping cart - she chased me around the first floor for a bit.  I noticed she didn't want my help to stand or get back up, which was a first.  She walked between furniture and the TV, then from the toy basket to the TV, and so on.  Her longest walk was a walk around the dog, a perfect circle.

I think she's had her breakthrough.  The house is no longer my own!

m

Bye bye specific baby product brand (buzz buzz)

Jude is still fighting ear and respiratory infections, so we were back at the doctor this morning. The doctor noted Jude has some eczema on her face. When I was redressing her I saw pin point red spots on her neck and arms and showed those to the doc.

The doctor commented that it looked like an allergic reaction, which is interesting, as I've been fighting the same thing on my neck and chest for a few days.

Likely culprit - Jude's baby wash and moisturizer. So bye bye Burt's Bees products and hello super sensitive stuffs.

Bummers - I love the way that stuff smells.

About that name

It was brought to my attention that I didn't formally announce the baby's name, nor explain its origin.

I apologize; I pieced my blog posts of the trip together from my travel diary and I thought I'd included that information.

I called the baby Beach Baby in this blog from the beginning. I decided on her name a few years into the adoption journey. The night before I met Jude the guide came to my room with a form to complete to start the adoption processing. The form asked for the child's English name. I hadn't intended to give out her name until I met her in person. I even had a 'back up' name in mind, just in case she didn't really match her intended name. Oh well, plans change.

Her name is Jude Frances Jie Connelly.

I named her after her grandparents. I was named after my grandmothers, so it seemed right.

Jie was her Chinese middle name. I wanted to retain part of her history.

Frances is the feminized version of my father's middle name.

Jude is for my mother, Geraldine. Her family called her Jed, and I thought Jude was very similar. I've also considered St. Jude to be my patron saint through this adoption so I liked that connection.

So that explains her name. It looks like we will have to wait until this summer to have Jude baptized but she officially Jude Frances Jie, in the eyes of China and the U.S., for now.

First Mass

Jude attended her first church service this morning. She was so well behaved all the way to communion. Then she got frustrated and it was time to leave.

She wore a dress I bought in Nanning. It was also the first time I'd had my St. Jude medal on since leaving for China. I carried a little chaplet with me on the trip, hidden in my diaper bag/ backpack.

Time for a nap!

Week 2 - Out and Sort of About

In our second week home Jude was feeling better, and I was on my second round of antibiotics. So, we ventured outside.

We met the neighbors and even ventured out to the zoo. It wasn't the best weather but it afforded us good views of the exhibits. We also did quite a bit of shopping, picking up things like sippy cups and food bowls. Jude has to be off bottles and walking on her own before she enters the daycare I want to get her in.

We've been to a few parks in the neighborhood but I still haven't found my ideal spot. Jude only plays on the swings for a few minutes, and as she isn't walking on her own yet she's easy for the other kids to knock down. For me, there isn't the right kind of walking track combined with swings for her.

Assessment at Children's Hospital International Adoption Clinic

The first Friday after we arrived home I took Jude for her assessment at Children's Hospital International Adoption Clinic.  This is a fantastic option for families bringing home children adopted of the US.  We met with pediatricians, physical therapists, speech therapists, a dietitian, even a psychologist.  Jude is in great shape.

It was so helpful to discuss concerns with multiple experts.  My biggest issues are her diet and sleep habits and the Children's staff gave me some great advice and guidance.  We will receive a complete assessment shortly and be able to use that as the basis for treatment with her regular pediatrician.

Using the hints they were able to provide, I had Jude sleeping in her own bed by that Sunday.  It's been going well and gets better every night.  Big relief for me, as having a pushy baby sharing my sick bed was not a good thing.

Thank you Children's!

m

First Week Home - House Bound

We spent the first week back in the US at home in sick mode.  Other than a trip to Target for medicine and another to the grocery for essentials, we just stayed in.  Kudos to my friends who graciously came over in the evenings to keep us company.  They brought food, comfort, and attempts at giving me time to sleep.  Thank you can't be said enough.

Jude slept in my bed each night and napped with me there as well.  It wasn't what I wanted but I didn't have the energy to fight it.  I'm pretty unpleasant without sleep, and even more so when sick so I chose to avoid conflict at all costs.  We didn't even bother to dress, just hung out in jammies, communing with our tissues, bad TV, and medicine.

Jude refused all baby food and has been eating table food from the get go.  She still refused fruit, except in her yogurt, and wasn't too keen on juice or water.  I did discover she prefers her food spicy; not bland morsels for her.

Half the Sky

If I didn't mention it before, Jude was fortunate to participate in a program sponsored by Half the Sky.  She benefited from the special attention, love, and development almost from the day she entered the BeiHai SWI.  I received a memory book put together by this program with photos, and development updates on Gotcha Day.  

It is obvious to me that Jude is as healthy, well adjusted, and developmentally on track as she is because of the extraordinary care she received through this organization.  

Please take the time to check out their website and consider donating to one of their programs.  If one more little girl can have the benefits of this level of care then that is the best gift Jude could ever receive.

http://halfthesky.org/en 

m

Day 13 - Aftermath

We are home and very happy to be here. Unfortunately we both came home sick and were miserable all weekend.

On Monday we went to the doctors' offices - Jude has ear infections and I ended up with pneumonia. As of now, I'm on round 2 of antibiotics, plus steroids, and breathing treatments. Jude is much improved but we are going back to the doctors again.

Day 12 - Back in the U.S.A.

O'Hare was a joke. Understaffed at passport control, then a tram to another terminal, and THEN another trip through security! Had to pull Jude out of the stroller and send it through the screener, and take off my shoes, then they had to screen her bottles.

If the flight to Columbus hadn't been delayed we'd have missed it. We were allowed to use the elevator in Columbus and made it home at about 5. Lori, Jackie and their girls were there to greet us. I admit it, I cried a bit. I was so relieved to be done with the trip. Had pizza for dinner and no sleep. Yes, we have a pattern!

Day 12 - Leaving Hong Kong

Having breakfast at HK airport

I started the day pretty cocky. I didn't pack an extra outfit for me, nor did I prep bottles after going through security. Stupid. Crazy push through the airport as I needed an extra step of checking Jude in through the United counter. At least we got to use the family lanes and board faster. Hong Kong should be awarded for their effective passport control and security. Fantastic!

Jude threw a fit before we took off. We pulled away from the gate but didn't go to the runway. Jude didn't want to be held, I couldn't let her down, and the flight attendant couldn't get me water fir her bottle. Oh the screaming. Over the course of the 14 hour flight she threw up on us both, blew out a diaper and generally did not sleep. The flight was as bad as I ever could have imagined and that is the last I'll speak of it. Eventually it was over.

Day 11 - Guangzhou to Hong Kong

Jude slept like a champ, even going to bed awake and not fussing. She just watched me pack until she fell asleep. She ended up horizontally across the head of the bed, effectively pushing me out of my side of the bed. I still didn't sleep all that well, but I'm adapting. She was extra grumpy this morning; I assume she can sense a change is in the air.

Two more hours to go. Jude is sleeping. The suitcases are packed, 4 bottles prepped to get me through today, and clothes/ bottles planned for tomorrow. This time tomorrow we'll be in the air.

The train ride to Hong Kong was uneventful. I was hoping to see more of the countryside and more of Hong Kong, but it was a slow ride through gray little towns and by the time we arrive in Hong Kong it was dark. I fell asleep next to Jude minutes after she did and woke up after 2 am with the room a mess and all the lights on.

Day 10 - Consulate appointment

Shopping on Shamian Island

OMG. Jude woke up with a big nose bleed this morning. I know it's from her sticking those fingers, and their sharp little nails, up her nose. Yuck.

We hurried down to meet the group and went to the consulate appointment. It was all very surreal. Into a building, up escalators and elevators, pushed through lines, and finally into a room that is reminiscent of a bank. In the Ukraine. A consulate employee addresses us all from behind a bulletproof window, complete with the pass through slot and metal speaker. A few bits of information, then we stood and swore we done the paperwork and supplied information to the best of our knowledge. Pay the visa fee, and someone reviewed my paperwork for about 30 seconds. Then a few harmless questions about my log in date, agency, and children at home. Done.

We found out on the bus returning to the hotel we'd have to arrange our own transportation in Hong Kong from the train station to the airport hotels. And guess who ended up making the arrangements? Yup. The single woman traveling on her own had to do it.

We went to the island later, and I bought some squeaky shoes (inside wear only), a silk jacket, and purses for the girls. Okay and a tote for me. It was raining and cold, we messed up her blanket again and generally became miserable. We did stop at a special store called A Gift from China, and I encourage every reader to visit their website. The items are handmade and the proceeds go to helping China's orphaned kids.

http://www.agiftfromchina.com/

I was glad to get back to the hotel and Jude's hands and feet were obviously really cold. We went out to dinner with the remaining members of the group. All good, and found out Jude likes broccoli and cauliflower. Came back to the hotel and started packing. I'm about 50 percent finished, but I'm really tired. I think it's time for bed.

Day 9 - Hibernating at the Marriott

So close. Jude slept in my bed last night and did a good 7 hours. I got considerably less. She was fussy at breakfast but I did get her down for a nap. There was a semi-planned tour to a new section of town this morning that I wasn't interested in so we stayed in. Jude is still coughing and congested and I'm just getting worse every day. Supposedly they were going to go to the island later, but at the last minute (again) added that to the morning trip. Tomorrow is supposed to be a warmer day.

The Laymons picked up the chops I ordered so I don't has worry about how to get get over there. Tomorrow we all go to the consulate in the morning to finish paperwork and do the swearing in ceremony. I'm planning an island trip tomorrow afternoon. If possible maybe we can get the Laymons and Stones to join us for dinner.

Well, she's had her first McD's fries. I swear she did a happy dance while she ate them. Said goodbye to the Minto family; they were so helpful to me. I wish we were all kept together as a group.

John dropped off the chops and let me know we need to be in the lobby tomorrow at 7:50. Hours later, our guide called with the same information. Nice.

I didn't have time to order dinner as I'd planned so noodles from the market were my best option. Cost: 63 cents. Jude loved them! That was the most sound she's made and the most insistent she's been about food. Girl, you are a cheap date. Tomorrow is our last full day. I couldn't be happier. I spoke with Lori on FaceTime and it made me even more homesick. I miss the dogs and Percy. I miss knowing where to go and being able to go when I want. I miss restaurants on the first floor. I miss my own universe. I knew this trip would be hard, and it's been easier than it could have been, thanks to the kindness of my group families. I know they are just doing the right thing, but they've no idea how crucial their help has been.

Day 8 - Shamian Island in the cold rain

The plan was to go out early to the island, do more window shopping than spending, but it was really cold. See your breath cold. We went, with Jude bundled up and with her blanket. It started raining right after we arrived, and the cab dropped at the opposite end of the island from where I wanted to be. We hit one shop, got three outfits and shoes. Not squeaky shoes though; the shoes she brought with her are too big. We were cold and damp and headed home. I didn't want either of us to get any sicker than we already were.

Sadly the first casualty of the trip was her blanket, which dragged against the stroller wheels and got two holes. I like that blanket. I still need to get back to Chen Temple to pick up the chops. Hopefully the weather improves.

We spent the rest of the day in the room, playing and watching Asian MTV. I will confess to my second meltdown of the trip. A little homesickness, a lot of cabin fever, that kind of thing. I'm still down overall, but I'm focusing on 2 full days left, then the trip home begins.

On a good note, she had a better experience with the bath tonight. I got in with her (darn near couldn't get out), and after giving her something to play with, and standing her up at first, she eventually was sitting, chattering, and splashing. Now if we could get improvement on the changing front. Those pull up diapers are looking better and better. She's back sleeping in my bed, still waiting to see if it makes for a better sleep tonight.

Day 7 - Noodle King and sleep

After the Pearl Market we went to a restaurant that has been on one of the travel or cooking TV shows, the Noodle King. Again Jude ate anything put in front of her (save fruit) to the amazement of the other parents. We had amazing noodles of course, but scallion pancakes, soup, and this cinnamon and ginger grilled chicken that was fantastic. It wasn't flavors I excepted in China.

I still have to get a few things over the next few days. The consulate appointment is Wednesday and we leave Friday afternoon. Time enough for one or two excursions back to the island.

Noodle envy

Shopping at Chen Temple

Who cares if it's cold!

Chen Temple

Temple carvings

More Chen Temple

Tonight I took two of the big Euro square pillows and put them under the board of the play yard. That raised the deck a good 2 to 3 inches. It was easier to get her down this time. I really hope she sleeps through the night. I need to sleep through the night. Did I mention she grinds her teeth?

Day 7 - Chen Temple and Pearl Market

Another rough night with baby. The play yard the hotel supplied for a crib is too high on the sides and too low in the bottom for me to easily put her down without jostling her. So we were up off and on.

Another good breakfast. Jude loves scrambled eggs and she had some yogurt, but again I haven't found a fruit she will eat. I knew today's excursion could be a long one so at least I packed well. We went to the Chen Family Temple but it was really cold. I ordered a chop with her Chinese name. A chop is a personal stamp, the equivalent of a signature. For all the adoption documents the Chinese official marks are all red stamps; the adoptive parents were required to sign and stamp our fingerprint.

The temple was beautiful with delicate sculptures on display. There were artists in residence as well; naturally the art I liked was well out of my price range. I'm trying not to buy a bunch of little things; I'd rather bring home a few items that have more meaning. That and I only have so much space in my suitcase.

After that we stopped at the Pearl market. We had 2 bus loads of GW families and we were crowded into a store the size of a walk in closet. I'm not really claustrophobic but it got to me. Then I realized I didn't want another set of classic pearls so I went over to the more expensive place and got a double strand of irregular pearls, and a bracelet and earrings. I told Jude that she would have to make due with her grandmother's pearls, these were for me! It dawned on me as she was stringing them that I should take Mom's old rings I never wear and have the stones set in a nice clasp for the pearls when I get home.

Pearl Market store

I approve of your selections

Day 6 - Renmin Park, Nanning

I mentioned the local park in Nanning.  It is called Renmin Park or Peoples Park.  Looking at maps of Chinese cities the people park is a constant.  Even though we visited on a gray day it was beautiful.  A huge, koi filled lake, surrounded by massive mangrove trees, with nooks and spots for people to play, exercise, dance, stroll - anything.  The guide explained that it is common for Chinese to retire at 50 and the elder generation is most involved with raising the grandchildren. Parks like these are full of toddlers and grandparents enjoying the day.

I really wish we had something like this.  Most parks in Columbus are a playground, open field, a few shelters and a simple walking track.  This is what a park should be, and free to the public.

I've attached some pictures and videos I shot that morning.  I tried to shoot the local flavor and include footage of the families in my group.

Day 6 - Guangzhou

We stayed at the China Hotel which is fantastic. Now that we are in the second week of the trip we are meeting up with other families from Great Wall who adopted in other China provinces.

New GW guide, same kind of issues. They've changed the itinerary so we are doing the medical exam and visa photo today. Itinerary changes were to be expected, due to weather and other circumstances. But the guide didn't tell us last night that there's a $200 USD limit per day for currency exchange. Sucks but I wasn't too worried - a nice breakfast improved the mood. Jude managed to slide right through the highchair, she didn't even budge in the ancient highchairs in Nanning. Ah the public humiliation!

So we headed out for Shaiman Island for exams and such. Two hours I thought, so a bottle of water for the baby, comfy clothes for me, no need for extra diapers or a bottle of formula . . . nope we were gone for 6 hours. Unbeknownst to us, we were supposed to sightsee and shop too, and have lunch, before the bus would be back. Blew through Jude's nap time, she had congee and some of my sandwich for lunch but no bottle. And me, well I was wearing my new pants, my new too long pants. I was soaked to the calves by the time we got home. I didn't want to shop right then, wasn't prepared.

Jude feel asleep while we walked to the place for lunch, then was squirming and cranky after, I mean really cranky, and only slept for less than an hour for her nap. Cranky strikes 1 and 2. Back on the bus after 1:30, the guide says, oh you need to fill out the consulate paperwork this afternoon (another variation from the itinerary), come to this room at 4:30. Cranky strike 3.

I get to the room at 4:30, oops, you needed to bring all your paperwork, plus the packet from Nanning. Jude and I go back to the room, get the goods, leave the key in the room, can't get to the other floor without a key card, can't get a new key card without an ID, which was still on the other floor in the diaper bag. Cranky strike 4. Finally get to the room, wait my turn and the guide's roommate shows, and suddenly, just sign these three papers she will do the rest. I felt a bit like I was getting second class service because the roommate, another guide, was there and they wanted to socialize. Cranky strike 5.

Oops, BTW we are going to Chen Temple tomorrow plus we are going to the Pearl Market. Another long day. I'm tempted to do the Pearl Market another day but maybe I'll just look around and catch a cab back to the hotel earlier. Cranky strike 6.

Day 5 - Goodbye Nanning, Hello Guangzhou!

Bad night last night. I work up around 1 with a flowing bloody nose and I woke her up. She got upset because I wasn't getting her right away but I needed to stop the blood. She had a bottle but didn't go back to sleep for another hour, meanwhile, I'm still bleeding. I couldn't sleep well and she was up off and on. We are both tired this morning. Took a lovely walk in the neighborhood park - I wish we had something like that at home. It was a little on the chilly side and I swear everyone looked at me like Jude was naked with only a onesie, pant, and hooded jacket on. I did feel rather guilty; I should have at least brought a blanket.

Finally headed for the airport around three. Well, after we retrieved my luggage from another hotel group's van. If I hadn't been freaked out about carrying my and the Mintos documentation, and checking constantly heaven know where my things could have gone. At the airport I was stopped for leaving my iPad in my carry on, Security dropped Chis' passport under the X-ray belt and a few other problems, culminating in a delayed flight out to GZ. The airport was hot, crowded, and loud (including a shouting level enthusiastic card game near us that went of for an hour) and I was very happy to get on the plane. Jude didn't make a peep at takeoff and was asleep before the wheels were up. Sweet! Met the GZ guide, boarded at nice motor coach which took us to an even nicer hotel. King size bed, luxury shower - I am in heaven. Except for the fact Jude didn't get to bed until almost 11, I'm so thankful to be here. Luxuries aside, it means we are halfway home.

Day 4 - Venturing out on our own

Bought a lovely hot pink Piglet stroller. Kaitlyn (the 2 year old on our trip) will be so jealous! Tried to find an Airport Express so I could use my iPad but was getting conned at the Apple reseller so I left. I'd rather beg Internet access off another family than pay through the nose. Saving my money for pearls in Guangzhou. Finally figured out the trick to getting Jude to nap - I draped the giant baby comforter over 2/3 of the crib top and it blocked the light. Plus she can't figure out how to sit up. Victory!

And all hail the conquering mommy! Chris and Rhonda stopped by our room to tell me about a complex a few blocks away that just had baby and kid stuff. It meant crossing the scary, scooter filled intersection and walking, by myself with the stroller down two long streets to get there but I did it! Yes, we were stared at, yes we walked around strange storefronts and people fixing scooters on the side walk, heck we even stepped into the street and dodged those scooter terrors and lived to tell the tale! I bought two outfits, one is a sleeper that's likely too warm but it is darling. The other is a dress and sweater set, which sadly didn't come with a diaper cover, but I just realized they'd never dress a baby with bare legs here. I'm just glad I ventured out on my own. I needed to conquer that here, to prove to myself and others that I'm not helpless. Just remember folks, always let someone know where you are going on these brave adventures and when you leave, so they'll know where to and when to begin a search.

Tonight was our last in Nanning, so naturally to fully appreciate this culture, we all went to dinner. At Pizza Hut. Pizza Hut with 38 pages to the menu, serving wine, steak, smoothies, and fried rice. Jude is willing to try everything and is learning to actively chew food. She's fallen madly in love with the sweet potato puffs, eating two bowlfuls this evening. It seems like she just getting her appetite back. Maybe her head is clearing. Back at the hotel it was bath night. That went over like a bag of broken glass. One round of wet screaming, thankyouverynuch. On the upside, she is asleep, and the screaming meanies combined with all the food she ate might just keep her asleep. I need to finish packing yeah!

Day 3 - Dining out in real China

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Last night wasn't as idyllic as Tuesday night. She was up at 11 for a bottle, then up again before 4 with a stuffy cough. She had a diaper change and some cuddling until she crashed again, but she was up before 7 and my morning was not executed as I'd wished. We still have issues with changing and exposed skin, but she did drink a full bottle and have some congee, eggs and (I confess) bacon this morning.

The Mintos went with me across the street to the grocery store. They've been a tremendous help. I needed formula, diapers and another bottle. Now that I've done the grocery once I can do it again alone if needed. Crossing the street is scary, particularly the little side strips that aren't regulated by lights. The scooters can be quite mercenary.

If I haven't said it before I'll say it now - I'm anxious to leave Nanning. The thought that we have 2 more days here is depressing. It's a nice enough place but the arrangements has been haphazard, the rooms so so and the service barely tolerant of Western guests. I know I'm just grumpy, and hopped on new mommy hormones, but I really want the convenience of my home and loved ones. I'm hoping Guangzhou is better.

Tried to go down to lunch, Jude got up early from her nap, but surprise, surprise, the dining room was closed for a private event. Unbeknown to our group, this will be the rule, not the exception. So we ate in the room and score one for chicken congee! It was a hit and she ate the entire bowl, save the bit I spilled on her and the carpet.

Had an interesting evening on many levels. We left the room to meet two of the other families for dinner in one of the hotel's restaurant which in fact was closed for a private function. And the other two restaurants were not open (see above comment). We ran into another set of parents from another agency and they were headed to the open air street market. We all tagged along.

That was the real China, they part tourists don't see. This couple lived in China for 6 years and were fluent in Mandarin. We wandered for a bit and saw many things that were fascinating many that I refuse to speak of ever. Then we tried to find a dumpling place that was recommended, and that excursion lasted many blocks, past more wild sights. We found the place, climbed 3 flights of stairs to find it closed. We eventually settled on a place and let them order. I tried this eggplant and peanut dish that was fantastic. Jude loved it! Guess I'll need to find a similar recipe and try it at home. Sadly my sore throat (from all the drainage caused by the pollution and air quality) was pretty bad by them and all I really wanted was water, and some Advil.

I realized about half way through the adventure that my brand new pants were too long and just being dragged through all the muck, and um, parts. Ick. Jude was up after her bedtime which just made her crankier to try and get to bed.

Right now I just want this sore throat to leave. I've got my days mixed up. I'm happy to realize tomorrow is Thursday and our last full day here. And it's Walmart day!

Day 2 - It's official!

Jude started the day looking rather panicked. No crying or screaming just passive and a bit scared. She comfortably climbed in the hip sling to begin the day's adventures. She looked dehydrated to me; her lips are chapped and she wasn't all that interested in food or a bottle. She hasn't had enough liquid or solids to make me happy.

They gave me a status update right before we all met the kids. It said she can walk with help, is a fast crawler and can jump. Interestingly it said she's an extrovert and a bit of a drama queen (okay they didn't use that phrase but it was implied). Also noted that she laughs loudly and plays enthusiastically. I look forward to meeting that little one. Today's girl was a ways away from that.

Long but uneventful morning at 2 Civil Affairs offices. She is now mine in the eyes of China. We had a free afternoon and evening, then a tour tomorrow morning. If I get a stroller I could do the tour but without it I don't know. I was hoping to forgo the stroller until Guangzhou as I'd rather not deal with it on the plane Friday. Even with the other families to help me it's going to be a bear dealing with my suitcases and a baby. I need to limit what is in the diaper bag, but my packet of papers is growing instead of shrinking.

Jude chooses to have breakthroughs in the strangest places. In the second civil affairs office, the notary I think, she ate some puffs, gave me her first real smile, and fed me a couple of treats. At dinner tonight, after the Mintos had left the table and we were alone, she was suddenly very animated. She smiled, giggled, shook her head yes and no while smiling, and then showed me could wave bye-bye, followed by blowing a kiss (okay kissing her hand against her mouth), and finally I asked for a kiss and got multiple! We're are my witnesses when I need them?!

We had a nice play session after nap and before dinner; with an 'I just want you to hold me' period. She just wanted to lie on me, not really interact, not play. I had some doubts about my ability to do this for 3 months - what if I don't do this right? Those blues passed but it did remind me that post adoption blues are a real possibility. I have waited for 6 years, that is a massive build up of anticipation and imagination.

Day 2 - Nanning

Nanning was an interesting city. The most remarkable thing was the scooters. Thousands of scooters, all day, all night, every road, everywhere.

All the riders had modified nits covering their hands and the scooter controls - looked a bit like oven mitts. Some nights the main shopping area by Walmart turned into an open air shopping experience, and the scooters and bikes were parked 5 or 6 deep for blocks.

The scooters ran on every type of fuel, making for quite a lot of pollution. That is where my health problems started.

Day 2 - Forms and family bonding

We started right after Gotcha with some photos, which are part of her paperwork to leave the country, and for her passport. We all headed back to the rooms and dinner. Okay, everyone but me headed for dinner. Jude wailed every time I put her down so we had matching meltdowns and lots of cuddling. Eventually she had a half bottle and settled a bit. She had a stuffy nose and a tiny cough.

After another round of paperwork, with Jude strapped to my chest, and then I put her down for the night. I abandoned 2 pair of pjs that were too short. Goodbye those cute 9 month clothes at home! I put Jude down to sleep at 8. She didn't like it but once I pulled her blanket on she got the idea. She lay quiet and watched me for a bit then crashed. My dinner was half a peanut butter serving from "lunch" and a protein bar.

She slept through the night, doing much better than me. I was up at midnight, 3, and 5. Ever the worrier, I realized all of the things I needed to buy. One of the dads came by after I put her to bed and asked if I needed anything from the store. I stupidly said no. A few hours later, that impulsive no changed to yes I did need stuff and it would have been so much easier for me if someone else schelped it from the store. The carrier is great but someone doing the lifting is better.

The carrier I bought from Walking Rock Farm is awesome! Eventually, Jude would see it and pull the strap over her head to tell me she was ready too go! I don't know if there are any pictures of us using it, but it was invaluable.

A slight interruption

We are home, arriving Friday after a long two days of travel.

Unfortunately, we both came home sick. After visits to the pediatrician and my family doctor we are both on medication. Baby is doing better, but I'm getting worse. Don't know when I'll be back to blogging, but please stay tuned.

M

Day 2 - Gotcha Day

I met one of the other families at breakfast. The Mintos have an 8 years old and are adopting a 2 year old. Next to arrive were the Stones, who have a 3 year old at home and are adopting a little girl a few months older than BB. The last family will arrive later this morning. We had to exchange our money for the donation and provincial fees at the bank. Michael (the guide) had to help me because one person can only exchange X dollars a day. The couples just split the amount. The exchange took us longer than expected so we were late leaving for Gotcha.

We finally gathered in the lobby to go to the Civil Affairs office. It all seemed so surreal. Two of the families have been waiting as long as I have - six years. After that long of a wait, what's a few more minutes?

On to the bus, out of the hotel driveway, and right across the bumper of a taxi. Crunch! No one was hurt but the drivers got out and argued and we caused a big traffic jam. Remember what I said about a few minutes? Ha!

After a half an hour, and with much worry that the Civil Affairs orifice would close before we arrived, we climbed out of the bus. We dodged traffic back into the hotel and waited for them to bring the children to us.

Every time a van pulled up we strained to look - nope, not our kids. Another van arrived and out came to Westerners - nope not our kids, so we turned away. But when we looked again, there were more Chinese persons in the lobby and they had children with them! Our children!

There were three little girls, two walking and one being held, with her head turned. I was worried I wouldn't recognize her, but then the littlest one turned her head around and it was her, it was BB! She looked just the same! I said, to no one, "she's real". It was major confusion and I eventually walked over and the nannies handed her to me. She was a little reluctant, but no tears. She was very quiet. Someone was taking pictures; I was too stunned.

Day 1 - Hong Kong to Nanning

Best thing about the Hong Kong airport? Luggage carts! All over the place, including at the arrivals area, the departure area and the gate areas. All free and it makes it so easy to handle your bags. I rolled mine right up to the doors of the airport hotel last night.

I spent a few hours at the airport on Sunday, waiting to leave for Nanning. By the time I got to my gate I was one of only two Western faces. The flight was quick and the plane was bigger than the puddle jumper I took from Columbus to Chicago.

Nanning airport was a shock. I didn't see airport personnel, just military. I found my guide and we took a minivan ride for 45 minutes to the hotel.

My next shock was what greeted me in my room. An empty crib. I think I stared at it all night.

Technology and motherhood do not mix

Technically, it's Thursday, March 1 and BB and I are hours away from beginning our trip home.

But, due to technology issues and the difficulties of doing this excursion alone, I haven't been able to post during our trip. I have been keeping a travel log and taking pictures and videos.

My solution is to post-trip post. You'll get the experience and all the stories, just a little after the fact.

Buckle your seat belts, is was a bumpy ride.

M

Made it to Hong Kong!

15 hours on a plane. Not one of my better experiences (shudder), but I'm here. Flight to Nanning this afternoon.

Time to explore!

M

A little night music . . .

Me, myself, and everything but the kitchen sink are ready to go!

I leave in the morning.  As evidenced by this post, I don't think I'll get any sleep before takeoff.  That might be a good thing; if I'm really tired by the time my flight leaves Chicago I might be able to sleep on the way to Hong Kong!

A little overview of my trip.  I'm flying through Chicago to Hong Kong first.  China is 13 hours ahead of home and it is a 15 hour flight, so I will get in late Saturday, HK time.  Spending the night there, then catching a quickie flight to Nanning.  

Monday is the big day!  Some time around 2AM Columbus time I will meet BB.  She is mine in the eyes of China at that point.  We will spend the rest of the week in Nanning, while China processes their documentation.  Then on to Guangzhou, where we spend another week doing the US paperwork.  On Friday BB will receive her US visa and we begin the long trip home.  Again, first an overnight in Hong Kong, then a long flight to Chicago (where BB becomes an official US citizen!) and a final hop home. 

I share all this with the a few caveats:

• Please keep our travel plans out of Facebook.  I will be posting to the blog only; the rest of the social media universe doesn't need to know.  

• I will be trying to post pictures and information while I'm gone, but there is always a good chance I won't be able to connect.  I promise to do what I can.  

Wish me (and BB) luck!

m

Ready, set, almost GO

The countdown has started!

Even better news arrived today - an update on BB! No new pictures but a more recent height, weight, and development information.

My girl is still small, under 19 pounds, but that's okay with me. All the easier to hold her and cuddle her in her carrier. It looks like the clothes I'm bringing will fit too.

Time to start that packing!

M

Getting lots done

I received Travel Approval! One huge step accomplished. On Monday my agency will request my American Consulate appointment. As soon as I have the date of the appointment confirmed I can book my travel.

Still waiting for my Visa; GW isn't moving fast enough for me on that one.

My fab mommy gang came over today to help with the final baby proofing. Susan's husband Sam even installed a baby gate and moved furniture! So great!

I spent evenings last week scanning, copying, and printing necessary documents for the trip. Still need to figure out using the Cloud, and Skype too.

So little time left yet it feels like it will never get here!

M

Strange coincidences

People talk in the IA and A communities about how in adoption, the right child finds the right parent. Call it fate, divine intervention, or what you will – it seems there is a greater hand in this process.

I’m a big believer and when I feel that tug of influence or coincidence I take notice. I’ll tell you BB’s future name is influenced by what seemed like weird similarities that happened early on in my adoption journey (I’m not sharing her name until we return from China).

Ever since I started this blog, I’ve referred to her as BeachBaby or BB. I was sitting on the beach when that moment of certainty about motherhood came over me. I love the beach, any beach – the ocean is my place. Heck, I chose that funky picture of me on the beach as my blog photo.

So is it fate that BB comes to me from an orphanage in a coastal community in China? Is it coincidence that she’s spent her entire life about two blocks from the ocean, perhaps able to hear its waves every morning? I think not. I think she really is my BeachBaby.

Sadly, she’s going to leave that warm beach town and end up in Ohio. In March. Brr.



Here is the latest update:

·I am waiting on paperwork – waiting and waiting. Travel Approval, Visa application, and renewed fingerprints are out pending processing. You’d think after 5+ years of waiting I’d be good at this. Nope.
·The nursery is done, save finding new knobs for her vintage dresser.
·All of the wonderful clothes my mommy friends have handed down to me have been sorted and put away. BTW – the child has 9 pairs of jeans. She’d better not grow too fast!
·I’ve bought most of the items I’ll need for the trip and the suitcase is in the staging area (aka the dining room table).
·I’m still looking for the right daycare; she will be just shy of 18 months when I go back to work so that opens up additional childcare centers that only start at toddler age.
·Prepping to interview pediatricians, although she will have a super physical at the IA clinic at Nationwide Children’s right after we return from China.
·I have most of the necessary gear (car seat, stroller, carrier) but I’m still baby-proofing the house.
·According to my mommy gang, I don’t have enough toys. I argue that I’d like to see how she reacts to the ones I take on the trip before I get too many at the house. I’ve been advised to forgo toys with loud sounds and flashing lights at first – they might be too scary.
·I am re-working the care package. I did have a blanket that I unwrapped and slept with for a few days, hoping to trigger some sense-memory on Gotcha Day, but that can’t be sent because it is “used”. I put together a little soft album for her with pictures of her new family and home.
·I’m reading and re-reading my parenting and adoptive parenting books. I’ve gotten the most out of, get this, the Baby Owner’s Manual and Toddler Owner’s Manual by Dr. Borgenicht, et al. The books are short and to the point, with simple diagrams (change a diaper, burp the baby, configure a nursery). Goofy, but actually a great help. They are small enough to take on the trip too.

That's all for today. Keep thinking those good thoughts!

M